Ok I am going to start with the harder topic of which I wanted to talk about in regards to my daughter’s Autism. Accommodations will take me a while. So todays post will be about ABA.
First why it is controversial, many adult Autistic’s had horrible, horrible and traumatic experiences. I will never take from their experience and down play it. ABA when done like it was when it started, and still is done in some places is very traumatic. If someone is making your child meltdown and is not paying attention to their needs then it is wrong.
ABA for my child has not been traumatic, other than therapists leaving, which has happened many times. I am not in love with the way the companies can not keep therapists and how there was no notice with our previous company.
ABA for my child has been working beside them, encouraging and giving choices. No force and no punishment. The therapist works with the child not forcing the child to work for them.
They teach me how to work with my child when they are not there and give me tools in my parenting tool box to help all my children. I find this useful though many of the things they started with I had already put in place because I needed peace in my home and it worked with the way I was currently parenting.
Our experience is not what everyone has had, but it has been positive. I went in this telling them that I did not want to change my child, I did not want to ever change their stims or ways of dealing with stress unless they are self harming.
Our goal was to help be able to help with social interactions and understanding friends and dealing with stress. She wanted to fit in more so I told them to tell her how, because Mom’s know nothing when it comes to teen girls.
ABA is not for everyone and it is not always done right. Always listen to what your gut is telling you if you are a parent of any child. If something feels wrong it is.
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